A Powerful Emotion That Can Shape or Destroy Your Life

 Anger is a natural emotion that is a part of every human being's life. Sometimes it can be a healthy reaction, but if not handled properly, it can have a negative impact on your relationships, mental health, and quality of life. It is important to learn to control anger properly so that it does not negatively affect your life.

When I talk about anger and if I ask any person, the answer is usually that it is just a behavior or an emotion. This is something that most people will agree with. However, I want to dig deeper into this emotion. Maybe you too, like me, wonder how many relationships I have ruined or lost because of my anger. It is possible that you too have experienced situations where things could have been okay, but your anger got in the way. It is interesting to think that just before I got angry, I was aware of my thoughts and actions. I could understand clearly and reason. But in that moment of anger, everything seemed blurred.  It felt as if I was no longer me, as if my understanding and intelligence had faded, I had no control over myself.

Anger is indeed necessary because without it, humanity would not be complete. But it should not be inflicted on every small matter. I believe that we should use anger as a tool, not let it dominate us. In fact, when we are angry, it is anger that dominates us, because it has no real existence. Here I am talking about it being indirectly, not directly present, whereas you yourself are visible, so the loss or benefit caused by it is yours. So I would say take anger as a tool.

This is not philosophical advice, but a simple approach that can be better understood by example. I was talking to a friend of mine one day. We got so engrossed in the conversation that, at some point, what he said angered me, and I said something that hurt him. At that time I should have stopped, if I had stopped, maybe the situation would not have deteriorated so much and I would not have said things that I would have regretted later For you this is just an example but this is my experience and there are many such experiences both you and I have with anger. But when I think more about that day, what would have happened if I had a knife in my hand when I was angry and because I didn't have control over myself, I would have done something more wrong and it would have been the right thing for me to do at that time. There are so many possibilities in my mind even today. What I did not do in my mind because I know the wrong is right. Your intellect tells you right from wrong. "Lord Krishna has also said that anger is the enemy of the soul, and it distracts the person from his intellect and the right path"

What is Anger in term of science 

From a scientific point of view anger is a complex emotional response that is rooted in the biological and neurological processes of the brain. It is produced in the amygdala which is the area responsible for detecting threats that trigger the release of stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol. These hormones prepare the body for fight or flight responses that cause physiological changes such as increased heart rate and increased alertness. Neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin also play a role in anger. Balancing these chemicals increases aggression and emotional instability. Psychologically, anger often stems from frustration or perceived otherness over unfulfilled expectations, and the negativity is exacerbated by repetitive thoughts or thoughts.

Why does anger arise? 

When I thought about its existence, why does anger arise? Or it could be your question, so the foundation and answer is something like this. When we are dissatisfied, our desires are not fulfilled, or when we are insulted by someone, anger becomes a natural reaction. Here do not make the mistake of understanding the causes of anger in just one word. The insults, the desires, the crimes and injustices, the lack of opportunities and environments, the lack of fulfillment of needs, all carry within them a great empire.It may take us a long time to understand each reason in depth, so the discussion of the reasons will continue simultaneously. That's when I said " A Powerful Emotion That Can Shape or Destroy Your Life "

Now we will try to understand one of the reasons in depth. From where I started, I thought when I went through it myself, not once but again and again and my efforts continue.And you'll be able to connect with me. So that's the "wish".

"Desires and Their Connection to Anger"

Desires are often the root of anger because they create expectations and attachments that lead to disappointment if not met. When we desire something whether it is a material possession, a particular result or even a particular kind of behavior, we invest it emotionally in the fulfillment of the desire if these desires are prevented or thwarted. Anger arises as a response, especially in situations where we feel powerless or entitled. The intensity of anger often reflects the strength of desire and the perceived otherness of its denial. Thus anger becomes a symbol of unfulfilled expectations and the more we cling to our desires the more we are constrained to experience anger because things are not going our way

Also, anger fuelled by unfulfilled desires can often cloud our judgement and make it harder to see the situation objectively. Instead of calmly evaluating the cause of our frustration, we can react in an impulsive way. You can force your dissatisfaction on others or the world around you because everyone wants to. Our desires should be fulfilled, and there should be no hindrance in their fulfilment. If the desires remain uncontrollable over time, it can lead to chronic anger or resentment because we start recognising more by the feeling of wanting than by accepting what we are. Conversely, true peace is found when we learn to reduce our attachment to desires. Accepting that desires do not always lead to lasting happiness and satisfaction lies in living life as it is, regardless of our desires. This type of thinking can reduce the intensity of anger, allowing us to see the path of emotional balance and inner peace where true peace awaits us. We can move towards it.

Now your question would be whether anger should not come. Here my belief is that you cannot eliminate anger at all, it is in our nature and neither can it be eliminated, but yes it can be controlled, I have the answer to how. 

How to control Anger 

Controlling anger involves recognizing it early and practicing self-awareness. When you feel anger rising, take a deep breath and pause before reacting, giving yourself time to understand the feeling. It is helpful to identify the reasons behind your anger, often it is not just the immediate situation but accumulated stress or unmet needs. Physical techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or even moving away from the triggering situation can help. Reframing the problem by focusing on solutions rather than problems also changes your mindset. Finally, exercising or practicing meditation regularly can help increase emotional resilience.

In conclusion, anger is a natural and powerful emotion that if left unchecked can have a detrimental effect on our relationships and health. It often arises from unfulfilled desires, unfulfilled expectations or a sense of guilt towards others and can cloud our judgement and lead to impulsive actions. While anger cannot be completely eliminated, it can be controlled through self-awareness, understanding its underlying karma, and practicing techniques such as deep breathing, physical exercises, and reframing your approach.